Steve
01-30-2007, 10:47 AM
4 Questions Game
Before I used to know about NLP I used the 4 magic questions technique which is great for newbies in NLS because it uses a lot of NLP but you don't need to know NLP to use it, I didn't realize how powerful it was till I used it the other night to create an incredible connection with this chick an ended up bedding her the same night. (Second meeting with her) It is a good way to get a chick to want to see you after talking to her on the phone. I would say I have these 4 magic questions and if you are game , I'll ask you but I can't do it on the phone (curiosity state). These questions will tell you a lot about yourself -- it's amazing how it works, you might even find things about yourself you didn't even know. I'm not sure that YOU REALLY WANT TO DO THAT. (Every one wants to know about themselves.) And after a bit of pleading from them for me to tell them I just say, "you have to wait and find out." (Puts you in a position of power because they are begging you and really want something from you but you aren't going to give it to them just yet.) Then when we meet I will build rapport, etc. and they will ask about the 4 questions, etc. and I will tease them and keep holding off "saying I am not sure that you really want to find out, it is very personal. Would you really like me to know your inner most secrets?"
The 4 questions are:
1. Imagine yourself in a white room everything is white -- wall, ceiling, floor. Describe your experience.
2. What is your favourite colour ..describe it , what feeling does it have?
3. What is your favourite animal.. Why? Describe it.
4. Imagine yourself near a large body of water .. describe your experience? What do you do?
It's amazing, everyone that does this test is amazed at how accurate it is and it really does work every time.
Answers
1. That is your perception of death and dying.
2. That is how you see yourself with these qualities that you answered to the question
3. (this one is very funny and always gets them a little blushed) this is how people see you with those qualities
4. That is you view of sex, with the water etc.
Now obviously you have to probe a little deeper when asking the questions so you can guide them into giving you the answers with enough depth to -wordremoved--wordremoved--wordremoved--wordremoved-yze it and give them a core in-depth answer. Now because the first few questions are very fluffy and general it's easy to get it right and get them amazed at how accurate the answers are so by the time you get onto the sex one (no. 4), you have got a huge rapport. They feel like you know them an a deeper level and the change in physiology, etc. is huge. So when you get to question 4 because you have been right for the last pacing statements about who they are as a person on a deep level and I reframed that they may be surprised and find out things about themselves that they didn't know themselves. This opens the gate to be able to fill this last statement with leading assumptions instead of pacing and they will totally agree, and obviously this is where you take the opportunity to lay it on thick about their sexual belongings, desires, etc. Here is an example to clarify things:
1. Imagine yourself in a white room. Everything is white -- wall, ceiling, floor. Describe your experience. Her: Peace, calm, relaxed
2. What is you favourite colour ..describe it. What feeling does it have. Red, fiery, stands out, passionate
3. What is your favourite animal.. Why? Describe it. Dolphin is smart, free, fun, cute.
4. Imagine yourself near a large body of water .. describe your experience? What do you do? I jump in and swim
Answers
1. That is your perception of death and dying you feel at peace you feel calm & relaxed.
2. That is how you see yourself: passionate, fiery, you feel you stand out in the crowd.
3. People see you as free, smart cute, fun.
4. That is you view of sex, love, excitement, etc. When you are with that certain guy (SP) and you just know deep inside that this person knows you at a deeper and a much more intimate level. You just find yourself wanting to just let go to all the passion and excitement and the deep connection you can experience. Now, WITH ME, when I answered the questions I felt the same way....
Before I used to know about NLP I used the 4 magic questions technique which is great for newbies in NLS because it uses a lot of NLP but you don't need to know NLP to use it, I didn't realize how powerful it was till I used it the other night to create an incredible connection with this chick an ended up bedding her the same night. (Second meeting with her) It is a good way to get a chick to want to see you after talking to her on the phone. I would say I have these 4 magic questions and if you are game , I'll ask you but I can't do it on the phone (curiosity state). These questions will tell you a lot about yourself -- it's amazing how it works, you might even find things about yourself you didn't even know. I'm not sure that YOU REALLY WANT TO DO THAT. (Every one wants to know about themselves.) And after a bit of pleading from them for me to tell them I just say, "you have to wait and find out." (Puts you in a position of power because they are begging you and really want something from you but you aren't going to give it to them just yet.) Then when we meet I will build rapport, etc. and they will ask about the 4 questions, etc. and I will tease them and keep holding off "saying I am not sure that you really want to find out, it is very personal. Would you really like me to know your inner most secrets?"
The 4 questions are:
1. Imagine yourself in a white room everything is white -- wall, ceiling, floor. Describe your experience.
2. What is your favourite colour ..describe it , what feeling does it have?
3. What is your favourite animal.. Why? Describe it.
4. Imagine yourself near a large body of water .. describe your experience? What do you do?
It's amazing, everyone that does this test is amazed at how accurate it is and it really does work every time.
Answers
1. That is your perception of death and dying.
2. That is how you see yourself with these qualities that you answered to the question
3. (this one is very funny and always gets them a little blushed) this is how people see you with those qualities
4. That is you view of sex, with the water etc.
Now obviously you have to probe a little deeper when asking the questions so you can guide them into giving you the answers with enough depth to -wordremoved--wordremoved--wordremoved--wordremoved-yze it and give them a core in-depth answer. Now because the first few questions are very fluffy and general it's easy to get it right and get them amazed at how accurate the answers are so by the time you get onto the sex one (no. 4), you have got a huge rapport. They feel like you know them an a deeper level and the change in physiology, etc. is huge. So when you get to question 4 because you have been right for the last pacing statements about who they are as a person on a deep level and I reframed that they may be surprised and find out things about themselves that they didn't know themselves. This opens the gate to be able to fill this last statement with leading assumptions instead of pacing and they will totally agree, and obviously this is where you take the opportunity to lay it on thick about their sexual belongings, desires, etc. Here is an example to clarify things:
1. Imagine yourself in a white room. Everything is white -- wall, ceiling, floor. Describe your experience. Her: Peace, calm, relaxed
2. What is you favourite colour ..describe it. What feeling does it have. Red, fiery, stands out, passionate
3. What is your favourite animal.. Why? Describe it. Dolphin is smart, free, fun, cute.
4. Imagine yourself near a large body of water .. describe your experience? What do you do? I jump in and swim
Answers
1. That is your perception of death and dying you feel at peace you feel calm & relaxed.
2. That is how you see yourself: passionate, fiery, you feel you stand out in the crowd.
3. People see you as free, smart cute, fun.
4. That is you view of sex, love, excitement, etc. When you are with that certain guy (SP) and you just know deep inside that this person knows you at a deeper and a much more intimate level. You just find yourself wanting to just let go to all the passion and excitement and the deep connection you can experience. Now, WITH ME, when I answered the questions I felt the same way....