Jay Julio
04-18-2008, 10:43 AM
Prepare yourself to learn some powerful concepts about conversations that, after you learn and apply them, will allow you to become a master at interacting with women.
Have you ever found yourself irritated with women bringing you their complaints, problems, and negativity?
Or perhaps you've been frustrated by women criticizing your behavior or trying to change you by making your decisions for you -- or even attempting to control you and your life?
Yes?
Then get ready to gain complete control of your conversations!
Here are the concepts about conversations you need to know so that you can handle yourself in these situations.
This will let you not only remove your frustrations or irritations in the process, but also transform them into enthusiasm that women find attractive.
How's that for taking control? Let's take a look...
The Solution to Mastering Your Interactions
The most critical of these ideas about conversations is that YOU have the power to choose what you talk about. And YOU also choose what you allow to enter all your conversations with women.
Many guys just unconsciously go along with whatever a woman wants to talk about.
They sit idly by and listen to whatever topic she brings up -- without questioning whether or not it's a topic they even want to talk or hear about. Also, they let her impose an opinion on him that doesn't match his identity. And by not saying anything, it becomes real in their interaction or relationship.
But the key is that you have complete control over what is said. And you have complete control over stopping a woman from trying to mold your identity.
One of the most important ideas about conversations is that you don't have to listen to ANYTHING you don't want to hear about.
Yet some guys think it's rude to interrupt a woman, break her train of thought, or change the subject. And the worst case, reject an imposed opinion that is contrary to how he sees himself.
But the truth is, it's much more rude to listen to something you're not at all interested in -- and self betrayal to let a woman believe something she thinks about you that isn't true.
So what's the real reason guys think it's rude? And how do you overcome it? What's the solution?
Why Guys Don’t Assert Themselves
There are two reasons guys don't assert themselves in conversations.
The first is they fear disapproval.
We've been raised to believe that we need feminine approval, so we tend to fear disapproval from women. And to take control of a conversation can often mean we'll be met by disapproval.
The second is indifference or lack of ambition.
When we don't know what we want or have next to no direction, we tend to let ourselves become susceptible to 'staying on the fence' and just let a woman flap her gums about whatever's on her mind. We let her place us in the role she thinks she wants to play in her life.
So to put these ideas about conversations to work, you have to conquer your fears of criticism and also learn to think for yourself.
Really, it's about developing an unshakeable inner confidence in your own identity.
There is no simple solution but it involves letting go of the need for feminine approval, for this allows you to start thinking for yourself -- which I believe isn't possible if you need validation from women.
But here's a good place to start...
How to Become A Master Conversationalist
The secret to becoming a master conversationalist is to understand the following concepts about conversations.
And keep in mind that they all revolve around the central idea that you have complete control over what is said -- either what she says or what you say.
1) Know What You Want
The first concept is that you must know precisely what you want from and in your interactions... and you must also know what you don't want.
For without knowing what you want, you have no direction to guide your interactions with.
And you don't know what to avoid or how to divert the conversation.
And especially when it comes to attracting women, the secret is to build on and encourage topics with positive charged emotions and cut off or stop topics that are charged with negative emotions, like complaining and drama from her life.
2) Know Who's Bringing the Topic to the Table
The second concept is that most women (and men) don't have a reason for the topics they bring to a conversation -- or more accurately, they're not always consciously aware of their reasons. And when they're unconscious, it's usually fear-based -- something to avoid at all costs.
Part of being a great conversationalist is being aware of their true intentions, even when they're not.
Sometimes, working with conversation topics is much like playing a game of chess. You have to strategically work with them, without directly confronting the issues underneath. Leading has to be subtle and tactful, without judgment.
After all, most communication -- the important stuff, our intentions -- are usually communicated underneath and between the words.
That's why it's important to recognize who's intention brought the subject or opinion into the conversation so you can deal with it effectively.
3) Choose to Accept or Reject the Topic
The third concept is that whenever a woman brings a topic into the conversation that you're interested in, you have to know how to accept it by expanding on it, knowing where to take it.
And you also have to know how to reject a topic or opinion she brings into the conversation tactfully, without it coming across as abrupt or obvious.
I dedicate a whole chapter revealing methods on how to direct conversations in my program.
By learning these conversational methods, you'll begin creating exactly the kind of outcomes you want from your interactions with women, along with other areas in life.
Become a Cool Guy with Women (http://www.coolguywithwomen.com)
Article © 2007, Jay Julio
Have you ever found yourself irritated with women bringing you their complaints, problems, and negativity?
Or perhaps you've been frustrated by women criticizing your behavior or trying to change you by making your decisions for you -- or even attempting to control you and your life?
Yes?
Then get ready to gain complete control of your conversations!
Here are the concepts about conversations you need to know so that you can handle yourself in these situations.
This will let you not only remove your frustrations or irritations in the process, but also transform them into enthusiasm that women find attractive.
How's that for taking control? Let's take a look...
The Solution to Mastering Your Interactions
The most critical of these ideas about conversations is that YOU have the power to choose what you talk about. And YOU also choose what you allow to enter all your conversations with women.
Many guys just unconsciously go along with whatever a woman wants to talk about.
They sit idly by and listen to whatever topic she brings up -- without questioning whether or not it's a topic they even want to talk or hear about. Also, they let her impose an opinion on him that doesn't match his identity. And by not saying anything, it becomes real in their interaction or relationship.
But the key is that you have complete control over what is said. And you have complete control over stopping a woman from trying to mold your identity.
One of the most important ideas about conversations is that you don't have to listen to ANYTHING you don't want to hear about.
Yet some guys think it's rude to interrupt a woman, break her train of thought, or change the subject. And the worst case, reject an imposed opinion that is contrary to how he sees himself.
But the truth is, it's much more rude to listen to something you're not at all interested in -- and self betrayal to let a woman believe something she thinks about you that isn't true.
So what's the real reason guys think it's rude? And how do you overcome it? What's the solution?
Why Guys Don’t Assert Themselves
There are two reasons guys don't assert themselves in conversations.
The first is they fear disapproval.
We've been raised to believe that we need feminine approval, so we tend to fear disapproval from women. And to take control of a conversation can often mean we'll be met by disapproval.
The second is indifference or lack of ambition.
When we don't know what we want or have next to no direction, we tend to let ourselves become susceptible to 'staying on the fence' and just let a woman flap her gums about whatever's on her mind. We let her place us in the role she thinks she wants to play in her life.
So to put these ideas about conversations to work, you have to conquer your fears of criticism and also learn to think for yourself.
Really, it's about developing an unshakeable inner confidence in your own identity.
There is no simple solution but it involves letting go of the need for feminine approval, for this allows you to start thinking for yourself -- which I believe isn't possible if you need validation from women.
But here's a good place to start...
How to Become A Master Conversationalist
The secret to becoming a master conversationalist is to understand the following concepts about conversations.
And keep in mind that they all revolve around the central idea that you have complete control over what is said -- either what she says or what you say.
1) Know What You Want
The first concept is that you must know precisely what you want from and in your interactions... and you must also know what you don't want.
For without knowing what you want, you have no direction to guide your interactions with.
And you don't know what to avoid or how to divert the conversation.
And especially when it comes to attracting women, the secret is to build on and encourage topics with positive charged emotions and cut off or stop topics that are charged with negative emotions, like complaining and drama from her life.
2) Know Who's Bringing the Topic to the Table
The second concept is that most women (and men) don't have a reason for the topics they bring to a conversation -- or more accurately, they're not always consciously aware of their reasons. And when they're unconscious, it's usually fear-based -- something to avoid at all costs.
Part of being a great conversationalist is being aware of their true intentions, even when they're not.
Sometimes, working with conversation topics is much like playing a game of chess. You have to strategically work with them, without directly confronting the issues underneath. Leading has to be subtle and tactful, without judgment.
After all, most communication -- the important stuff, our intentions -- are usually communicated underneath and between the words.
That's why it's important to recognize who's intention brought the subject or opinion into the conversation so you can deal with it effectively.
3) Choose to Accept or Reject the Topic
The third concept is that whenever a woman brings a topic into the conversation that you're interested in, you have to know how to accept it by expanding on it, knowing where to take it.
And you also have to know how to reject a topic or opinion she brings into the conversation tactfully, without it coming across as abrupt or obvious.
I dedicate a whole chapter revealing methods on how to direct conversations in my program.
By learning these conversational methods, you'll begin creating exactly the kind of outcomes you want from your interactions with women, along with other areas in life.
Become a Cool Guy with Women (http://www.coolguywithwomen.com)
Article © 2007, Jay Julio