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NoeBoe
05-10-2008, 09:03 AM
Hi guys!

I'm new to this forum and would like to introduce myself! I'm Nick, 25 years old and from the Netherlands. I study arts therapies and willl move out of Holland (Hopefully) after this summer. Never thought I would join a forum like this, but I believe it's a great help to much of us men. I like to paint, sculpture, play music and enjoy nature and life! Well, that's it for now!

Got 1 tip I really feel that works for me, it's from a book wich name is improve your radiance (Uitstraling in dutch) by Carolina Bont. She's a expert with (High) sensitive people and got loads of nice tips in it. One of I really like is to anchor yourself in your body so you stand firm while talking to the girl u like, it goes like this:

Within 3 seconds of seeing her, decide that your gonna talk to her no matter what.
Then do the following.

- Get aware of your breath going in and out
- Imagine roots coming out of your feet
- U inhale orange light to the place beneath your belly button (Several times)
- U tell urself: "I'm honestly intereseted in her, wanna know if she's cool or not" (Several times)

Then walk up to her and do your thing!

My question for you guys is, I know I'm a good looking guy but I'm really not comfy with it, specially cuz I'm half indonesian. Loads of people tend to think good looking indonesian people are gay and it really makes me feel uncomfortable specially cuz I'm highly sensitive too.
So when I talk to a girl, I can see that she's interested but I think because I'm uncomfy with my power and looks in that situation she starts to be uncomfy too (Or thats just because she thinks I'm a hot piece of ass ;)). Next thing that happens is that I focus too much on her uncomfortable gestures.

- I want to make myself comfy with myself
- I want to know how to make her comfy

Any tips would be very welcome, and any questions on any subject are very welcome too!

Thanks dudes!

ExoMliest
07-31-2008, 12:18 AM
This probably has nothing to do with the ladies, it probably happens when you're around a group of people of value. You probably don't value yourself enough. She's not the typical girl you talk to, she's used to talking to guys of certain class. You have to feel, believe and know you're not less than those guys. Only then will you be comfortable around her and those people.

Tips:
1. have an interesting life, do sports,etc.
2. you can imagine she's just an average or even an ugly girl and don't treat her to special, this way she'll see you're used to talking to girls like her, and you look for something special about her beyond her looks